Love and Infatuation

It feels good when we are in-love. Everyone falls in love. However, others feel infatuated only and they think that they are in-love. Infatuation and Love, both, typically begin with attraction.  They both give the feeling of excitement and happiness.  They both leave you desiring more. Everyone is looking for love, but we do not know what love we all want and need? What does real love look like? How will we know when we have found it? Some think of “being in love” as an unexplainable feeling that we “fall in and out of”.

Love often means different things to different people. Depending on who is doing the talking? Love can mean a feeling that may not last; a euphemism for a sexual relationship; self-sacrificing action on behalf of others; acceptance without criticism; being more honest than nice; having someone to talk with; etc…

There are some feelings we have when we are infatuated and we do not feel it when we are in love. If you are infatuated you feel insecure, you never be contented of what you see or have. Yes, maybe there us the excitement that you feel when you are in love but the truth is you are not happy of what you have. Sometimes you doubt him or her. Sometimes you always ask but seem to find no answer. There are things you want to know about him or her but sometimes the answer makes you disappointed and jealous. Basically infatuation is based on physical attraction and impulse.

When infatuated, you want to trust, yet you’re still suspicious. There are lingering, nagging doubts about our “partner in infatuation” and their love for us. We’re miserable when they’re away, almost like we’re not complete unless we’re with them. It’s a rush and it’s intense. It’s difficult to concentrate. In addition, most infatuation relationship have a high degree of sexual charge around them. Some how being with them is not complete unless in ends in some type of sexual encounter. 

Love, on the other hand understands, it knows that your loved one has imperfections. And this is the true love it gives you strength. You even feel his or her presence even you’re far away from each other. Distance is not a hindrance for your love not to grow. You’re sure he or she is with you in spirit. Of course, you want him or her near, but near of far, you know he or she loves you as much as you love him or her. You can wait for him or her no matter what.

When you’re in love, you don’t rush into anything, you don’t panic, you plan your future carefully. It is also a maturation of friendship, it is always best to be friends first before becoming lovers. Love trusts the other person, you know you can trust him or her and feeling this way, he or she even becomes more trustworthy. In here you will have no regrets,. You are sure of your moves.

The first time you said "I love you", it was based on infatuation with the idea of love and relationship. This feelings will grew to love  but not being in love. That is two different aspect. Being in love is something that you want forever even though you see your partner old and ugly and the feelings are still the same that is in love. You will know this when you want to see him in his most ugliest day, such as waking up without a gel and haven't take a shower or brush his teeth. This when you want to sleep with hime without minding the snoring or noises he makes. This is when you argue but still feel bad at the end because you fight. And when you put your heart and feelings aside, just to make him happy. And now you can say you are in love.