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Price-cut Valentine's Date

These days, you've got to be practical. With the bad economy and all, even love has to take a price cut. Things you can do for free 1. Visit her at home. Not only will her parents have peace of mind, but you even get a free meal. Bring some DVD's that you can watch and popcorn to microwave. Or whip up something in the kitchen, even if you both don't know how to cook. Variation: Bring some cooked food from your place to her house. You need not to be a gourmet cook or you can ask your mom for help. To really get on her mom's good side, offer to drive her and her mom to the mall or super market. 2. Scan the newspapers and listen to the radio for free concerts and outdoor movies for free. Launchings of new products are also a good idea. You get not only free entertainment, but product samples to boot. The important thing is that you and your  date have a great time. Variation: Join radio and essay-writing contests in newspapers to get free invites or free dinners.

Best to wait for someone

It is best to wait for the one you want than settle for the one available. Best to wait for the one you love than one who is just around. Life is too short to be waste on just someone so it is best to wait for the right one.   Keep your eyes open, and do not fool yourself that you can change someone, or that what you see as faults is not that important. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you have to learn how to close one eye and not let every little thing bothers you. You and your partner have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. Neither one of you is perfect, but are you perfect enough for each other? You cannot make someone love you, or make someone stay. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. A relationship keeps strong because of Communication, intimacy, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children, daily

Let reason take break

"Your heart says go, but your head says no..." Yet another cliche', but it does seem to hit a nerve, doesn't it? At one point or another, we have had to deal with this internal conflict whether or not in the context of romantic love. In our society, the cliche' about heart and mind going in "different directions" is, in fact, pertinent, given all the unwritten, but well understood, rules and restrictions that we've come to embrace, consciously or otherwise. Here are some of the most common "unwritten rules" that make falling in love just a little more complicated. NOT "UP TO PAR" People-watching has become a common Filipino pastime. Subconsciously, we have formed clear mental pictures of the different classes of people. Being pintaseros and pintaseras, we tend to judge by looks, surname, school, social circles, family background, or even the way others speak English. We have become so judgmental that we can look at a cer

What is Love?

What is love? What are its attributes? Where is love? How do we find it? The truth is, love cannot be contained in mere words. It is hunger to be suffered, a gift to be shared, a pleasure to indulge in, and a miracle to believe in. love is a mystery but, we shall attempt to define it anyway. LOVE IS FREE The quality of love is never strained. It is given freely from the heart. The most sublime love is the unconditional kind, the one that is voluntarily given and expects no payment back. Love is free and has no price in it. It flows generously and can never be forced. If you can buy it, then it is not true love. But true love is rarely found. As Francois Duc de La Rouchetou could says, "True Love is like a ghost, which everyone talks about but few have seen". LOVE IS GIVING Love  is giving something of yourself. When you give to someone, you inevitably affect his destiny. A little act of kindness or even an encouraging word can perform the miracles in life of someone

Blind Date Rules of Engagement by Faye Bambalan

It would be nice if people would just meet and fall in love. But these days, life requires a more pro-active stance. With Valentines Day just around the corner and couples all around you, why sit around waiting for the perfect guy when you actually take action? I am talking about going on a blind date. For some people, doing the blind date circuit is the best way to get over a heartache or to simply announce that they are free and single. Others view it as a way to actually find the one. The more practical among us, also known as freeloaders, see it as a chance for a free meal. What ever your reasons, a blind date is always an experience, even if sometimes its a nightmare. Now most people would find the idea of going out with a perfect stranger daunting, or appalling. But the mechanics of the game are simple. A few rules are so obvious they could have been taught in high school values class.Not all of them are application or applicable to every situation though. I went through ye

Things to Ponder

When you love someone, don't expect that person to love you back the same amount. One will always be ahead and the other is left behind. It's either you catch up, while the other has to wait. When the door of happiness closes another opens but often we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one, which has opened for us. To love is to be hurt. For no one ever picked up a rose and appreciate it without the thorns. To love is not about "it's your fault!" but "I'm sorry", not "where were you?" but "I'm right here", not "How could you" but "I understand", not "I wish you were here" but "I'm thankful you are..." Faith makes all things possible. Love makes all things easy. Hope makes all things work. You can learn to love someone when you find out what makes him/her laugh. But you can never truly love someone until you find out what makes him/her cry. Sayi

Looks could kill

These days when fashion and fade continuously evolve, one can't help noticing the very way teener dress, behave and even talk. Some personalities seem to fit some teens but there are also those who try desperately to look good. Yes, there are teens who just seem to be too conscious of themselves. It is normal for a girl to have mirror inside her bag and use it when she fixes herself. But it is inappropriate and even funny for a boy to bring one. However, it is interesting to note that boys compensate by looking at any glass window or even side mirrors of cars whenever they feel like fixing themselves. You would surely notice a friend, a classmate, or an acquaintance that just had a new haircut or a new set of clothes. These are some of the many ways that some people, especially teenagers, would get out of their way just to look good. There are teenagers who would sacrifice the usual just to look "new". From the hair down to the pair of shoes. And these are

The Secret of Courtship

There are three qualities of good courtship -- friendship, compatibility and prayer. FRIENDSHIP If we enter into a relationship of course we cannot have someone if we don't pass through a friend relationship. He or she ought to be your friend. Friendship is important in courtship. Friends bring out the best in each other and that is one of the most important qualities of courtship -- to make my friend a better person. Good friends make each other more alive, more creative, more loving, more happy and more holy. Friends help each other celebrate life together! The best quality of friendship is that friends talk together. The technical word is that they "communicate" become one together. They become one by sharing thoughts and ideas. In courtship, you have to be able to talk freely about any subject. You have to be able to talk about what is bothering you or what is worrying you. Communication also means you have to be able to listen. Courtship is not ve

Everything Happens For a Reason

Sometimes people came into your life and you know right away they were meant to be there; they serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people are. Maybe your roommate, your neighbor, your professor, long lost friend, lover or even a complete stranger. Who and when you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way.  And sometimes things happen to you and at the time they seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would never have realized your potential, strength, will power of heart. Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good or bad lucks. Illness, injury, love, lost moments or true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of the soul. Without this small test, if they be events, illness or relationship

Friendship

You know you have a friend for life when they answer the phone at one in the morning. And the very reason is because you can’t sleep and have a lot on your mind. And they don’t mind talking about nothing, just to get your mind off everything. They spare time with you. When you know that id something bad happened to you they’d be there for you, no questions asked. When you can look at them when something is wrong and they know it just by the look in their eyes and all they have to do is offer a hug and you feel a thousand times better. When you know that they’d never lie to you, and would never hurt you and if they did, it would be for your own good. They can make you laugh when skies are the darkest, and they’re there with a good movie and some popcorn when you’re totally depressed. And even if you’re a thousand miles apart, it doesn’t matter because what you share with your friends is so much deeper than what it lies on that distance plays no role in your friendship. 

Growing up is hard to do

Growing up is not easy. growing up means change and change is really hard to deal with. But do you often hear these lines; "it's time you show some responsibility", or "why are you such in a hurry to grow up, you'll have plenty of time to go out". There are also some confusions that bother our minds we're not sure if we want to grow up or go back to being kids again. Growing up may be hard but not growing up isn't an option either. So whether we like it or not, we have to cope up with the trials that may come with it. To understand further this topic, try to understand this example. We are like tree seeds, and if only these seeds could talk, they'll also say to grow tall and stand between strong winds, rains and storms. But a tree seed can't be a seed forever. And we are like them, we can't be a seed forever, we have to grow up. Growing up maybe scary, but God created our parents, friends and other people to guide us. Of co

Game of Love

When you think of your past love, you may view it as a failure. However, when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher. In the game of love, it does not really matter who won or who lost. What is important is you know when to hold on and when to let go. You know you really love someone when you want him or her to be happy, even if his or her happiness means that you are not part of it.  Everything happens for the best. If the person you love does not love you back, do not be afraid to love someone else again, for you will never know unless you try it. You will never love a person you love unless you risk for love. Love strives in hunting and hurting. If you do not get hurt, you do not learn how to love. Love does not hurt all the time, though the hurting is still there to test you and to help you grow. Do not find love, let love find you. That is why it has called falling in love, because you do not force yourself to fall. You just fall. You cannot finis

Dreams

We spend one-third of our lives in sleep, and much of that time is devoted to dreams. Yet, dreams, which contain important messages from our subconscious mind, are not given the attention they deserve. In fact, the average man or woman simply ignores his or her dream. Yet dreams, since the beginning of time, have never ceased to fascinate man. In biblical times, dreams were regarded as messages from the gods and those who were able to interpret dreams were believed to possess divine knowledge and were regarded as prophets and wise-men. Indigenous people all over the world have always regarded the messages in dreams as being as important as knowledge gained during the waking state, if not more so. The Senoi Tribe of Malaysia, for example, feels that if one hurts another member of a tribe during a dream, he or she is required by tribal law to ask forgiveness from the offended party during his or her waking state. The American Indians believe that before the world existed, it was firs

Heart warmers

It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return but what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, and the romance in a relationship -- and find out you still care for that person. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go. When the door of happiness closes, another opens but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one that has been opened for us. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had. It's true that we don'