How do we express Love?

We do not express our love. We thought we do but not. Love is a feeling and the expression of that feeling is separate. It’s an action. There’s a practical reason why we don’t always express our love for another. Its an issue of time. We only have twenty-four hours in a day.

Time reveals the truth. It’s then that we face t he crunch: is this the person we want to spend the rest of our life with; or is this the person we never want to see again? Is this someone whom we are naturally able to love; or is this someone from another planet?

What time reveals is biorhythmic compatibility. The hidden compatibility that’s built into our physiology. You cannot see it, sense it, smell it, or feel it. However, it is there all right. A partner-selection through our biorhythms is performing a far more profound type.

If the expression of love was a core ingredient to love, we would have to be stingy with whom we loved, because there simply wouldn’t be enough time to love everyone. If you see the distinction between the feeling and the expression, you can then love endless numbers of people. 

Love is being express when you give your attention, your time, your focus to someone. Webster defines attention as “the giving of one’s mind to something.”

We give our attention to another in many ways. We use our five senses. Our ears to listen, being completely present with the one who is speaking. Our eyes by watching each another or it is also called the undivided attention. Touching, like giving a hug, holding hands, a caress or sexual expression. Tasting or Smelling… figure this out. How you express your love depends on the type of relationship.

When and how we express love is determine by references. You may prefer to spend more time with someone who is outgoing, rather than quiet, or more serious rather than silly. You maybe more physically attracted to someone who is short rather than tall, or younger rather than older. There are an endless number of qualities determined who, when, how and to what degree we express our love.

Why don’t you try to spend time with them? Find common interest, makes dates, travel together, minister together, pray and study together, shop together, go for walks, etc…

Talk to them, say something nice or kind, make point or sharing your day, learn something new everyday and share it, compliment them, read to each other, verbally encourage them in pursuing their dreams, say “I love You” a lot…

Give them something special. It might be something practical that they need or something foolish and romantic. Like a book, a handful of flowers, a mushy note, a card, or a note that full of data of your memorable experiences. 

You can give and express your love by simple ways too. Like giving hugs and kiss. That’s why we have Anniversary for that special occasion at least we share and never forget how much we love that person.

A hug is an expression of love, caring and affection. When someone is down or sad, a hug can be performing and reassuring. When given to a pal or a friend it means, “you are someone I care about!” When you hug and hold someone it is caring, it is love. Telling each other, this is where we belong, in each other’s arms. It is comforting, protecting, feeling of security, warmth, and a sense of peace. 

When you’re in love, a hug can be pure happiness and joy. It might a release from all the tensions and problems in life that might be bothering you. Because of that moment, when you are hugging, you are where you belong and everything is right. Everything you wanted is in your arms… loving you… holding you… hugging you.

Kiss is also such a form of expression, expressing love that when you kiss a person you are not aware of anything around you. The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story.  It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even t he final surrender, because this kiss already has with in it that surrender.

There is the kiss of welcome and of parting, the long, lingering, loving, present one, the stolen, or the mutual one. There is the kiss of love, of joy, and of sorrow, the seal of promise and receipt of fulfillment. You may conquer with the sword but you are conquering by a kiss. 

A kiss is something you cannot give without taking and cannot take without giving. The sound of a kiss is not as loud as that of cannon, but its echo lasts a good deal longer. It is the passion that in a kiss it gives its sweetness. The affection sanctifies it.

Is not a kiss the very autograph of love? Is not the kiss the starter of an enduring love? A man snatches the first kiss, pleads for the second, demands the third, takes the fourth, accepts the fifth -  endures all the rest. A kiss can be a comma, a question mark or an exclamation point. That’s the basic spelling that every person ought to know.